THIS IS MY LIFE
Wednesday, 7/24/2002
Copyright (c) 2002, Michael (Dickerson) Deluno. All Rights Reserved. Reproduction or quotation is strictly prohibited without permission.
Hi, you ~
The Cassandra saga is continuing. I haven�t forgotten about it. She stayed with me off and on for 8 days after my last update. Part of the time was really comfortable/friendly. A bit of the time was confrontational. Then she took off, and we�ve stayed in touch via e-mail and have continued the processing that way. It�s been a roller-coaster ride. More about what I'm learning soon. (Yes, I know I�ve said that before. I'll write about it when I'm ready.)
I�ve known another woman (Niara) since we met via an online personal ad last August. Because we have so much in common and because a comparison of our astrology charts said that we�re extremely well matched for romance, we decided to explore that possibility with each other, despite her living in Durango, CO, and me, of course, in Santa Fe. So, I went up to Durango 7/11-14. It turned out that the chemistry/energy wasn�t there, but we had a good time anyway. She�ll be a good friend.
While I was there, she took me to meet several of her friends. I was extremely attracted to one of them (Katrina). (No, it didn�t bother Niara. It was fine with her.) What was oddly synchronistic is that Katrina and Cassandra know each other from their days in Austin, TX. Anyway, she wasn�t interested, so that one didn�t work out, either.
The good news is that I didn�t reject myself by thinking she wouldn�t be interested and not asking. I�d rather ask and be rejected than never ask. So I feel good about that.
Anyway, that was a remarkable 6 weeks or so, exploring romantic possibilities with 3 women. That�s very unusual for me. I often go months without feeling that interested in anyone.
Now I find myself willing to take more time and put more energy into exploring options with women. We shall see what comes. It feels like it�s finally time to move relationally.
And, as I said, I'll come back to what I'm learning in a message soon. There�s a lot.
There are other things going on in my life, too, believe it or not. My job is okay, but not thrilling. It�s comfortable, but it isn�t my real life�s work. It�s time to get moving with what�s really mine to do. Related to that, I�ve been co-facilitating a grief group (how synchronistic), and I did the Sunday morning talk at The Celebration a few weeks ago. It�s an independent metaphysical church. So, I'm making progress, but not quickly enough for me to be satisfied.
I'm meeting people and making friends. I'm not making enough money. I'm in charge of the annual auction at Unity Santa Fe. I did an 8-day house and pet sit 4th of July week. Those are the highlights, I guess.
As I keep saying, more later.
Namaste,
Michael
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This Is My Life is my letters to my family, friends, and whoever else may be interested about whatever is meaningful to me in my life. I don't guarantee anything about content or frequency. The letters will be whatever they turn out to be. If you want the best option available for keeping up with what�s happening with me, though, this is it.
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If you�re interested in my work, I invite you to take a look at the Heart Song Schedules. They provide information about the e-zines, classes, workshops, retreats, ministry, and other programs offered by Heart Song Institute, Heart Song Associates, and Heart Song Ministry. See the most recent schedules at either http://groups.yahoo.com/group/HeartSongSchedule/messages or http://www.topica.com/lists/HSSchedule@igc.topica.com/read
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Wednesday, July 24, 2002
THIS IS MY LIFE
Wednesday, 7/24/2002
Copyright (c) 2002, Michael (Dickerson) Deluno. All Rights Reserved. Reproduction or quotation is strictly prohibited without permission.
Hi, anyone/everyone ~
A couple of weeks ago I visited a friend in Durango (more about that in another letter) who's done work with Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks, who I've also long admired. One evening we watched their video called The Conscious Heart, related to their book by the same title. It was among my favorite videos I've ever seen.
Watching the video, it became clear to me that much of what I believe about conscious relationships and about healthy relationships is contained in their Master Commitment and their 7 Soul-Commitments. I can, without a moment of hesitation, make those commitments for all relationships that are important to me - and I hope that those people will also make them. When I find the woman of my dreams, I feel quite certain that she'll be eager to make these commitments, too. I'm looking forward to experiencing and exploring the power of that kind of primary relationship.
I recommend the commitments to you for your consideration and have copied them below.
If you'd like to learn more about the Hendricks' work, see their web site at http://www.hendricks.com.
By the way, the one I'd add to the list would be something about following Spirit without hesitation in my relationships and having the faith that doing so will lead me to whatever is for the highest for myself, for my partner, for all beings, and for the planet. I'd make that the Prime Commitment (like the Prime Directive in Star Trek) - above even the Master Commitment.
May all of your important relationships be conscious ones.
Namaste,
Michael
The Conscious Heart Commitments
~~ Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks, The Conscious Heart
~~ My modifications are in [ ]
The Master Commitment:
I accept relationship itself as [one of] my primary teacher[s] about myself, other people, and the mysteries of the Universe. I open myself to letting every relationship interaction, no matter how seemingly trivial, deepen my connection with my essence and the essence of others. I invite all healing powers in myself and the Universe to remove any obstacles to my relationships being a source of joyful fulfillment to me in all my depths. I commit to clearing up anything in me that keeps me from full loving unity with myself and my loved ones. I make a commitment to intimacy that is greater than my commitment to being right and perpetuating my conditioned patterns.
The Seven Soul-Commitments:
#1. I commit to realizing my full potential for both closeness and autonomy. I open myself to learning about and honoring my essence-rhythms of closeness and separateness and to learning about and honoring those rhythms in others.
#2. I commit to full expression, to holding back nothing. This means telling the truth about everything, including my feelings, my fantasies, and my actions. I commit to telling the inarguable truth � truth that no one can argue with � instead of giving my opinions, beliefs, and prejudices. I also commit to listening non-judgmentally to what people say to me.
#3. I commit to becoming the source of full responsibility for my life, including my happiness, my well-being, and my life goals. I absolve everyone, living or dead, past or present, from any implication that they cause my feelings or actions in any way.
#4. When faced with the choice between being happy and being defensive, I commit to choosing happiness. I commit to doing this especially in those situations when my defensiveness seems most warranted and when it is totally obvious to me that I am right and the other person is wrong.
#5. I commit to learning to love and appreciate myself and others in my close relationships.
#6. I commit to the full expression of my creativity and to inspiring the full creative expression of those around me.
#7. I commit to celebration as the dominant emotional tone of my relationships. Particularly, I commit to celebrating the essence of myself and those close to me.
[If you don�t already and would like to receive my letters directly via e-mail, send an e-mail (no message needed) to ThisIsMyLife-subscribe@yahoogroups.com]
[If you�d like to read the archives of my letters and/or holiday letters and travel reports I've written since 1977, visit http://forums.delphiforums.com/ThisIsMyLife/messages]
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ABOUT THIS IS MY LIFE
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This Is My Life is my letters to my family, friends, and whoever else may be interested about whatever is meaningful to me in my life. I don't guarantee anything about content or frequency. The letters will be whatever they turn out to be. If you want the best option available for keeping up with what�s happening with me, though, this is it.
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COPIES AND FORWARDING
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You�re welcome to freely redistribute This Is My Life (my letters) if you think someone might be interested in reading it. Please don�t use any of it for profit, though.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
MY COMMUNITY
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Another excellent way to know what�s going on with me is to join the Heart Song Community e-mail list. That�s an e-mail community that provides opportunity for discussing a variety of topics and sharing about our personal lives. You can get more information and join at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/HeartSongCommunity
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MY WORK
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If you�re interested in my work, I invite you to take a look at the Heart Song Schedules. They provide information about the e-zines, classes, workshops, retreats, ministry, and other programs offered by Heart Song Institute, Heart Song Associates, and Heart Song Ministry. See the most recent schedules at either http://groups.yahoo.com/group/HeartSongSchedule/messages or http://www.topica.com/lists/HSSchedule@igc.topica.com/read
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Wednesday, 7/24/2002
Copyright (c) 2002, Michael (Dickerson) Deluno. All Rights Reserved. Reproduction or quotation is strictly prohibited without permission.
Hi, anyone/everyone ~
A couple of weeks ago I visited a friend in Durango (more about that in another letter) who's done work with Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks, who I've also long admired. One evening we watched their video called The Conscious Heart, related to their book by the same title. It was among my favorite videos I've ever seen.
Watching the video, it became clear to me that much of what I believe about conscious relationships and about healthy relationships is contained in their Master Commitment and their 7 Soul-Commitments. I can, without a moment of hesitation, make those commitments for all relationships that are important to me - and I hope that those people will also make them. When I find the woman of my dreams, I feel quite certain that she'll be eager to make these commitments, too. I'm looking forward to experiencing and exploring the power of that kind of primary relationship.
I recommend the commitments to you for your consideration and have copied them below.
If you'd like to learn more about the Hendricks' work, see their web site at http://www.hendricks.com.
By the way, the one I'd add to the list would be something about following Spirit without hesitation in my relationships and having the faith that doing so will lead me to whatever is for the highest for myself, for my partner, for all beings, and for the planet. I'd make that the Prime Commitment (like the Prime Directive in Star Trek) - above even the Master Commitment.
May all of your important relationships be conscious ones.
Namaste,
Michael
The Conscious Heart Commitments
~~ Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks, The Conscious Heart
~~ My modifications are in [ ]
The Master Commitment:
I accept relationship itself as [one of] my primary teacher[s] about myself, other people, and the mysteries of the Universe. I open myself to letting every relationship interaction, no matter how seemingly trivial, deepen my connection with my essence and the essence of others. I invite all healing powers in myself and the Universe to remove any obstacles to my relationships being a source of joyful fulfillment to me in all my depths. I commit to clearing up anything in me that keeps me from full loving unity with myself and my loved ones. I make a commitment to intimacy that is greater than my commitment to being right and perpetuating my conditioned patterns.
The Seven Soul-Commitments:
#1. I commit to realizing my full potential for both closeness and autonomy. I open myself to learning about and honoring my essence-rhythms of closeness and separateness and to learning about and honoring those rhythms in others.
#2. I commit to full expression, to holding back nothing. This means telling the truth about everything, including my feelings, my fantasies, and my actions. I commit to telling the inarguable truth � truth that no one can argue with � instead of giving my opinions, beliefs, and prejudices. I also commit to listening non-judgmentally to what people say to me.
#3. I commit to becoming the source of full responsibility for my life, including my happiness, my well-being, and my life goals. I absolve everyone, living or dead, past or present, from any implication that they cause my feelings or actions in any way.
#4. When faced with the choice between being happy and being defensive, I commit to choosing happiness. I commit to doing this especially in those situations when my defensiveness seems most warranted and when it is totally obvious to me that I am right and the other person is wrong.
#5. I commit to learning to love and appreciate myself and others in my close relationships.
#6. I commit to the full expression of my creativity and to inspiring the full creative expression of those around me.
#7. I commit to celebration as the dominant emotional tone of my relationships. Particularly, I commit to celebrating the essence of myself and those close to me.
[If you don�t already and would like to receive my letters directly via e-mail, send an e-mail (no message needed) to ThisIsMyLife-subscribe@yahoogroups.com]
[If you�d like to read the archives of my letters and/or holiday letters and travel reports I've written since 1977, visit http://forums.delphiforums.com/ThisIsMyLife/messages]
*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
ABOUT THIS IS MY LIFE
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
This Is My Life is my letters to my family, friends, and whoever else may be interested about whatever is meaningful to me in my life. I don't guarantee anything about content or frequency. The letters will be whatever they turn out to be. If you want the best option available for keeping up with what�s happening with me, though, this is it.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
COPIES AND FORWARDING
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You�re welcome to freely redistribute This Is My Life (my letters) if you think someone might be interested in reading it. Please don�t use any of it for profit, though.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
MY COMMUNITY
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Another excellent way to know what�s going on with me is to join the Heart Song Community e-mail list. That�s an e-mail community that provides opportunity for discussing a variety of topics and sharing about our personal lives. You can get more information and join at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/HeartSongCommunity
~~~~~~~~~
MY WORK
~~~~~~~~~
If you�re interested in my work, I invite you to take a look at the Heart Song Schedules. They provide information about the e-zines, classes, workshops, retreats, ministry, and other programs offered by Heart Song Institute, Heart Song Associates, and Heart Song Ministry. See the most recent schedules at either http://groups.yahoo.com/group/HeartSongSchedule/messages or http://www.topica.com/lists/HSSchedule@igc.topica.com/read
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